Girlfriends and wifes

Here’s something I saw on Facebook. It was circulated and shared around.

交往第一周： 　
女孩：老公。在干嘛呀？想我没呀？ 　
男孩：在想你，有没有想我呀？
女孩：傻瓜，我当然想你啦。 　
男孩：真的嚒？　　
女孩：当然，呵呵 　　
男孩：么么 　　　
女孩：么么
交往第2周 　　
女孩：老公在干嘛？吃饭没？ 　　
男孩：喝酒呢，你吃没？ 　　
女孩：没呢，在想你，一会儿吃饭去。呵呵 　　
男孩：，呵呵，快去吃吧，不要饿着了。 　　
女孩：恩，知道啦，这就去，记得想我呀。 　　
男孩：知道啦。快去吧 　
交往第三周　　
女孩：老公，在干嘛呢？ 男孩：泡妞呢，呵呵。　
女孩：哼，那你泡吧。
男孩：哈哈哈哈，逗你呢！
女孩：你每次回复我信息都好慢
男孩：我在玩游戏呀。
女孩：哦，不要玩太晚了，早点休息，我先睡了
男孩：恩，睡吧，晚安
交往第4周　　
女孩：老公，在做什么呀？ 　　
男孩：你猜？ 　　
女孩：猜不到：（　
男孩：喝酒呢, 你呢。
女孩：哦，我没事，就是想你了 ，少喝点儿，别喝难受了　　
男孩：好的，别担心。

交往第五周
女孩：老公，在干嘛呀？又喝酒呢？
男孩：对呀，年底了，饭局多。 　　
女孩：哦　
男孩：你呢？ 　　
女孩：想你呢。别喝多了，担心你。　
男孩：不会的、放心吧老婆。　
女孩：嗯，我先睡了，你晚上也早点回家。
交往第六周　
女孩：老公？　
男孩：？怎么了？　　
女孩：我们分手吧。。。 男孩：为什么？ 　
女孩：你总是各种忙，心里没有我，偶尔才会想起我。　
男孩：没有啊，等有时间我过去看你，好吗？ 　　
女孩：不用了，时间期盼着过，好难过。
男孩：要不你来找我吧。女孩：我感冒了。
男孩：那就吃点药，多喝水，在家好好休息，别出门了。过几天我去看你，好吗？
女孩：好。
女孩心情低落，慢慢心凉了：老公，祈祷你找到个更好的，你爱的，祝你们幸福。
女孩手机号从此再也无法接通。男孩心里只有难过，爱，已经失去了！
Translation:
Week 1 of relationship
girl: hubby. what are you doing? did you miss me?
boy: missing you. did you miss me?
girl: dummy, of course i’m missing you.
boy: really?
girl: of course, hehe
boy: *smooch*
girl:*smooch*
Week 2 of relationship
girl: hubby, what are you doing? have you eaten?
boy: i’m drinking, have you eaten?
girl: not yet. i’m missing you. i’ll go eat in awhile. hehe
boy: hehe, go eat, quick. don’t starve.
girl: okay. i know. i’ll go now. remember to miss me.
boy: i know. go eat quick.
Week 3 of relationship
girl: hubby, what are you up to?
boy: having fun with a girl. hehe
girl: hmph. go have your fun then.
boy: hahahaha, i’m teasing you
girl: you always reply my messages late.
boy: i’m playing games
girl: okay. don’t be too late, rest early. i’ll go sleep first.
boy: okay. good night
Week 4 of relationship
girl: hubby, what are you doing?
boy: make a guess?
girl: can’t guess. :(
boy: i’m drinking
girl: oh. i’m alright. i just miss you. drink lesser, don’t make yourself uncomfortable.
boy: alright, don’t worry
week 5 of relationship
girl: hubby, what are you doing? drinking again?
boy: yeap, it’s the end of the year. lots of party(not sure bout this one).
girl: oh
boy: you?
girl: missing you. don’t drink too much. i’m worried about you
boy: don’t worry, wifey. nothing will happen.
girl: okay. i’ll go sleep first. you should get home early
Week 6 of relationship
girl: hubby?
boy: ? what’s up?
girl: let’s break up…
boy: why?
girl: you’re always busy with other things. you never think of me. you only think of me once in awhile.
boy: that’s not true. when i have time i’ll go over and see you, okay?
girl: there’s no need. waiting for time to past is a really bad feeling.
boy: why don’t you come find me then.
girl: i’m sick
boy: then take some medication, drink more water, and rest at home, don’t go out. i’ll come see you in a few days, alright?
girl: okay.

the girl feels extremely down, and became disappointed as time passed: hubby, i hope you find a better girl. best wishes, the one you loved.
from then on, the girl’s cell phone could no longer be reached. the boy could only feel sad, for love, has been lost.


好多情侣在交往 ，只有一方在无谓的付出，这样会使一再付出的那一方感觉很累的，恋爱是两个人的事，光靠一方是经营不起来的，就算在一起能呆一个月，三个月，还是五个月，结果肯定还是一样的。有的人错过了就不会再有了，在一起的情侣们，你们要多替对方想一想，不要总是以自己为中心，让对方顺着你走，性格再好的也会受不了的。。。也许哪天你回想起来，你错过了的不止是一个人，而是你一辈子的幸福。。。有同感的请转发，相信你会很幸福的，也希望你能把这种幸福传递下去，让更多的人懂得珍惜，幸福一辈子。為什麼就是有這樣的人不懂的去珍惜你，珍惜你的你又愛理不理人為什麼那麼犯見賤

First of all, to people who out there who shared this post with their other half(especially girls who showed it to their boyfriend/husbands), hoping that their boyfriends/husbands will start being more romantic and touchy-feely, no offence. Because you may not like what I am about to say. These are merely my opinion. You may choose to disagree, it's up to you. You may be sharing it for the right reasons, or not(“hey honey, read this. I’m sharing this with you because you’re so not sweet! I need you to say sweet things to me all the time and give me all of your attention! Or else, you might just lose me like how this guy lost his loving and caring girlfriend.”).
The messages being exchanged between the couple above is pretty normal. Except the fact that the girl seems to be unable to be independent at all. She doesn’t seem to have her own life, own interests, own things to attend to because all she does is miss her boyfriend. What? The girl also seems to be unable to express her true feelings, as in tell her guy that she needs attention and reassurance(guys don’t catch hints like that, sometimes you have to tell them straight to their face). Also, you break up with a guy because of not getting enough attention? Did you expect to be treated like a princess? Really? As for the guy, how much does he drink, really. How many times a week, man? Kind of overdone, if you ask me. Also, you don’t even bother to check on your girlfriend when she’s sick. That’s kind of an ass move. Forgivable if you’re busy with really important stuff and you can’t get your hands off. But if you’re out partying and drinking, ignoring your sick girlfriend, then you’re an ass.
That’s based entirely on the text messages above. Now, my take on this aspect of the relationship. Specially pin-pointing those out there who expects the unnecessary things from their other half, as mentioned above. What I am about to say isn’t directed for the author of the Facebook post, nor it is directed at the couple in the story. It is directed to people(especially girls) out there who become unrealistic and unreasonable when being in a relationship.
 

#1: You can't expect your honeymoon period to be permanent. Its simply unrealistic. I do strongly believe that no matter how many years into your marriage, you need to keep the flames burning, you need to put in effort to make things work, make things lasts. But not this way that many girls out there expect from their man. Imagine this. 10 years down the line, you want a husband who knows how to keep a proper and stable job, support the family, cater for you and your children's needs. You want a husband who knows how to come home every night and be there for moral and financial support whenever you need it. You don't need a husband who only knows how to spend all his money on buying you gifts and cute little things, instead of investing them to make more, saving them for your child's education, for a rainy day, for the family. You don't need a husband who is a helpless romantic who skips work, whisks you away on a secret honeymoon, and screw the world with you. No, that's not being charming and sweet, that's being irresponsible. And it only works in novels and movies.

#2: Is 'he is not giving me enough attention' really a good reason for break up? The conversation above shows how shallow the girl is. Sure, the guy is probably not attentive enough. But is he cheating? No. Is he getting himself involved in illegal stuff? No. So what did he do wrong? Men will be men. I know we girls get attracted to all the romantic stories and dream of the day we would find a man like that. No. Stop dreaming. If a man like this ever exists, he is either gay or a complete fraud (No offence to the very few rare ones in the world who are actually dreamy like that). Like I said before, you don't want a husband who gives you 24/7 attention but does not know his role and his responsibilities.

#3: This line: '在一起的情侣们，你们要多替对方想一想，不要总是以自己为中心，让对方顺着你走，性格再好的也会受不了的。。。' (Translation: Couples out there, you should be more thoughtful for each other, do not always only focus on yourself/your needs, and make the other person follow whatever you want, no matter how patient a person is there will be a day where he/she won't be able to take it anymore...) This line is really true. Girls, instead of always complaining about what our guys aren't doing for us, sometimes we should also think of what we are not doing for them. Apart from being our boyfriend/husband, they also need to be themselves. Of course, when you love someone, they should be your priorities. Boyfriends and husbands should know how to put their girls as one of their main priorities. But that doesn't mean that all he can do from then on is spend all his time and money on you and do nothing else except sweet talk and cuddle you endlessly. That's a really unreasonable thing to ask from them. Why do people say 'behind every great man, there is a great woman.'? What does that imply actually? Girlfriends, wifes, we should be supportive of our man. We should be understanding, guiding, loving, and supportive. Not demanding, unreasonable, and selfish.

I'm not a perfect girlfriend either. But I'll always strive to be my best. Not because I'm in such bad conditions and has horrible looks or has bad attitude that no one else would ever want me; not because my boyfriend is a super famous, super rich, super handsome trophy that I manage to get and I must keep it away from prying hands. The reasons why I want to be a good girlfriend is because I love him, and I'm doing it for myself. Here's another thing I feel strongly about: If you're going to do anything, do it for yourself, not anyone or anything else. I believe doing my job well, playing my role properly makes me a better and more wholesome person as a whole. That is why I do it. Sure, I fight with my boyfriend as well. We're all merely human. But my main point is, don't get so caught up with all these fairy tales, romance novels and chick flicks. Stop expecting the sky from your man. Think about it, if they wanted the sky from you, could you get it for them? If they threw tantrums all the time because you went shopping with your girlfriends instead of spending time with them, could you stand it?
Guys. Sometimes, we girls just want a little attention because you mean a lot to us. Girls are creatures driven by emotion. Be understanding, loving, patient and give us the protection and reassurance we need.
 
tl;dr?

Relationship = applause. It takes 2 hands to clap. Simple as that.